coaching

Coaching is a supportive and sincere partnership designed to give you the life you want, one that is fulfilling and fits who you really are. First, we’ll work together to determine what your needs are, what you want to bring into your life and what you need to let go of. Once we have those important pieces nailed down, we’ll figure out how to make your vision a reality by doing things like—

  • Breaking down goals into small workable steps
  • Creating methods to change unwanted behaviors
  • Devising a schedule to enable you to manage your time
  • Tackling any unexpected obstacles together

Life coaching is about working in the here and now. You will be surprised throughout our coaching sessions at how often I will bring you back to the present moment. The amount of time all of us spend looking backwards or trying to predict the future is really shocking once you become aware of it. The past is already behind you, the present is where you can become what you want.

what situations can a coach help me with?

Below are four typical situations people come to me with:

So you got the gym membership, bought the cute workout clothes and even have an upcoming vacation to motivate you. Just as you’re about to fish your LBD from the back of your closet, you go on a carbohydrate bender for the weekend. Why do I stop every time I get close?

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You and your honey are getting ready to take a trip away from it all – the kids, the house, the pets, work, everything. All you have to do is book a hotel and get grandma to take care of the children and you two can go recapture that spark. But what if Grandma can’t keep the kids? Will I have to call my sister? Gosh, who wants to owe her a favor? Then she won’t be able to take them to soccer practice on Sunday, which means I’ll have to get one of the other moms to pick them up. They’re probably going to think I’m a bad mom for being gone for the whole weekend. Maybe we should just put the whole trip off.

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Well, here you are, being told the same thing about “you” from yet another person. Could you really be coming across to people as (insert your adjective here: snobbish, needy, inconsiderate)? I’ve heard it before, and I’d like to change, but I’m not sure how. I feel like I’m always in danger of losing friendships and romantic relationships because I’m not coming across entirely as the good person I know that I am.

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It’s show time at work! You’ve been asked to put together a presentation for your company. This is your time to shine and show everyone how skilled you are. Despite plenty of positive feedback, you are suddenly paralyzed with the fear of being “found out.” What if they ask me questions, and I don’t know the answer? What if I start talking, and they realize that I am not even qualified for the job I have, much less a promotion? Maybe they’ll see that I’m not really as good as everyone else is at their job.

You can see that the situations all have something in common—the person is trying to improve their life and yet can’t seem to get out of their own way. Life coaching will help get you moving in the direction you need in order to make the changes you want. You need someone to sort out the multiple conversations in your head. Some are productive, most are just noise. We will lay out all of your concerns and start piecing together the fastest, most efficient way to get your needs met.

what’s the time commitment for life coaching?

Coaching sessions can take place over the telephone or at in-person meetings. Sessions are typically three times a month for 45 minutes, though duration and frequency may vary depending on your needs and preferences.

The standard minimum time commitment for coaching is about three months. This gives us enough time to build a foundation, create an action plan and start getting results.

I encourage clients to try phone sessions. Not only do they save transportation time, phone sessions also often allow people to be more open and comfortable.  However, in-person sessions can also be done in midtown Manhattan and Brooklyn.

how does coaching differ from therapy?

You might be confused about whether you want a therapist or a life coach. While there is some overlap in the fact that they both ultimately seek to improve your quality of life, there are also distinct differences.

  • Therapy works to achieve emotional healing while coaching works toward higher functioning.
  • A therapist works with deep issues from your past, and a coach is for when you are ready to move into the future.
  • Therapy assumes the client needs emotional healing. Coaching assumes the client is mentally healthy.
  • Your life coach functions more like a partner, friend and mentor. Therapists act more as doctors.
  • Life coaches are more likely to share their own personal experiences with you to help you along your journey. Therapists are less likely to share deeply personal experiences with their patients.
  • A therapist asks, why? A life coach asks, what now?

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